Living free because Jesus Christ chose me. Wife to Anthony, mom to Samuel. Love reading, blogging, crafting & cooking! Sac State MA alumni, passionate about life.


Subscribe to Newsletter

Entries in parenting (3)


The Only Way to Parent

For many months I have convinced myself that I don't have anything worth writing about. And what I write doesn't matter to you. I feel like just another voice amongst the millions of writers/bloggers out there. I have often thought my words are no different than the next person. I don't want to become a "mom" blogger who gets on a soapbox and thinks I am an expert on child-rearing. But I think there might be a person out there who would be helped by reading what I have to say.

Let's start with the thing I've been plagued with since December 23, when our first child Samuel was born. Being a mom is much harder than I ever thought. I have gotten on my own soapbox and written about how mom's should say positive things about being a parent. I'm not saying I don't enjoy being a mom. I am saying it is the most difficult thing I've ever done. Way harder than working full time and getting my Master's Degree. More challenging than being married. Light years tougher than moving across the country. 

One reason I believe the mom-life is strenuous: I'm a perfectionist. I do not want to fail my child. I do not want to make mistakes and I certainly don't want Sammy to go to counseling because of how we parented him. Another reason is: spiritual attack. We are endeavoring to raise our son to know and love God. We cannot control whether he will accept God, but we can raise him and be examples of loving and serving Jesus. 

I want to share some of my journey with you as I discover how to be a mom who lives free of guilt and fear. I don't want to hide and pretend I'm doing ok when some days I'm not. Friend, if you're out there reading this post in the middle of the night and wondering why your baby is crying. I know how that feels. I don't have any answers other than the one bit of advice my 84-year-old grandpa told me:

The only way to parent is from your knees

The comfort this statement has given me has been unbelievable. Parenting and sleep training books are all helpful. Talking to other parents brings insight. But often for me, the only thing that works is prayer. Asking my Father for wisdom and what I should do for a particular nap, a certain food, what to do next. Prayer is the key. Or at least that's what I think with my 10 months and 8 days in to this (and heeding to the wisdom of my grandpa).

My Grandpa and Grandma Roome praying over Sammy, July 2014

Friend, you are not alone and you are not failing your child. Cry out to the Lord. The word says,

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. - James 1:5 (NIV)


Weekly Roundup

This week, I enjoyed the following posts from writers around the blogosphere:

  • Impacting Your Child's Blueprint ~ "What on earth is a Blueprint? We all have one - it's the mindset that shapes our thoughts and actions for all of life..." Great reminder about the impact we have on the young people in our lives.
  • Creamy Avocado Pasta ~ A dairy-free way to make a cream-sauce. As soon as we have some ripe avocados this is being made!
  • One Yard Wonders Sew Along- Festive Flag Banners ~ I was so excited to see that this fabric studio had made a mini pennant/banner because of a question I asked them. Seriously, they have wonderful customer service and I am so happy with the fabric I purchased.
  • Submission is an Inevitable Part of Marriage ~ "Submission is a disposition or an inclination to follow the leadership of another." Wow. I haven't read anything this insightful on the role of submission in marriage or heard anything about this in a very long time. 
  • Baked Apples with Maple and Granola ~ A great recipe for me to use up some of the 1/2 bushel of apples we got last weekend.
  • On Being Present ~ "I’m learning to stop with all the “let’s get it done” and just enjoy. I’m learning it’s just as important to devote my all to the balance act of a new groove..." The concept of being present is something I've been trying to do the past few months. All too often, I look back and realize I was hoping for the next (fill-in-the-blank) to come and missed out on what happened in the moment.

Did you read anything great this week?


Weekly Roundup


This week I enjoyed the following posts from various writers in the blogosphere:

What have you read this week that was thought-provoking and/or delicious?